How Can a Pedophile Protect children?
1. First you have to admit to your self what you are and understand that even if you are feeling safe, you can at anytime become a monster and abuse a child.
2. Learn to recognize what your ideal victim looks like, acts and what it is you find attractive.
3. When you find yourself in a situation that could put you and a child at risk, Get the HELL out.
4. The tough part. You need to get into therapy and name your behaviour.
5. The tougher part. You need to make certain people in your life are made aware of your behavior and make a plan to always be on guard for the clues that you might be walking into unsafe places. This could be a spouse, friend, brother, or a sister that knows what you are and is willing to keep an eye on you and remind you when you find yourself in situations that you could be putting yourself at risk of offending.
6. Find a group therapy for sex offenders, preferably for Pedophilia, because these are the people who have been around the block and will be your best best for helping you to control yourself and setup a plan and in a nut shell, they'll know when your bullshitting and set you straight.
We are not asking you to wear a label on your forehead. You can do this! You will have the satisfaction of knowing that you are helping to keep children safer
4 comments:
they wont seek help, they wont tell anyone often they dont have people in there lives to tell, you no why? because they dont think what they are doing is wrong because they are sick, ill diseased people.
the ones that do no, dont care because they are monsters.
the idea of paedophiles meeting in a cosy room drinking coffee offering round the biscuits dicussing their urges makes me feel sick.
a woman who filmed her boyfriend raping A BABY got let out of prison after only serving 2 and a half years!
put them in a prison cell and throw away the key no help no councling its like aids....your not cureing them your just longing it out till death
I understand that fear. The injustice in the case you describe isn't right. How ever I disagree on why they don't look for help. Yes some and statistically less, believe they are doing nothing wrong or no harm. The majority of them no its wrong and the damage they do.
Most don't look for help because one, there is not much help to be found and two, they know that society will destroy their live even if they haven't acted on those impulses.
They see how others are treated and so they with withdraw and hide.
Listen to Danny. F**k the above anon's comment. People are capable of changing. It's people like him that drive those who would otherwise endeavor to better themselves to suicide or even to act out their perversity! Everyone deserves a chance. This kind of ignorant, pig-headed prejudice gets us nowhere.
Understanding > self-righteousness.
So where are we? Do we DARE show compassion? The number one reason nobody writes about this stuff is because they might come off sounding compassionate towards a child abuser. It is difficult to get a book published with the facts about this disorder because it humanizes the perpetrator and nobody wants to be looked upon as a sympathizer.
What we need to do is take a real look at the statistics and discover if the re-offend rate is as bad as the media plays it out to be. I can find data that shows child molesters have a less re-offend rate than any other crime like robbery, murder, and drugs offenses. I don't know what that proves if anything, but I do know that a child molester knows how to groom their victims and how to manipulate situations to set the stage. If they are willing to share that information with the public, can you imagine the safety we can develop to protect our children.
I had a recent opportunity to talk with an offender and I was taken by his sincere desire to not repeat his offense. That may be like an alcoholic saying he doesn't want to drink any more. The desire to quit is real but the probability, without intervention, is unlikely.
He shared with me how and what he uses to get a victim to actually think they want to participate.
The psychology used by these people are as sophisticated as they are ingenuous.
But what he shared will become a valuable tool for police and parents to protect their children.
I encourage more offenders to reach out and i encourage more therapists to be open to work with these people. We will never fix what we pretend can't be and ignore ALL avenues to make a difference.
Don't hide behind silly lies and taboos, encourage and help them to seek help with understanding, and then, we will start to see the change
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