How Can a Pedophile Protect children?

1. First you have to admit to your self what you are and understand that even if you are feeling safe, you can at anytime become a monster and abuse a child.

2. Learn to recognize what your ideal victim looks like, acts and what it is you find attractive.

3. When you find yourself in a situation that could put you and a child at risk, Get the HELL out.

4. The tough part. You need to get into therapy and name your behaviour.

5. The tougher part. You need to make certain people in your life are made aware of your behavior and make a plan to always be on guard for the clues that you might be walking into unsafe places. This could be a spouse, friend, brother, or a sister that knows what you are and is willing to keep an eye on you and remind you when you find yourself in situations that you could be putting yourself at risk of offending.

6. Find a group therapy for sex offenders, preferably for Pedophilia, because these are the people who have been around the block and will be your best best for helping you to control yourself and setup a plan and in a nut shell, they'll know when your bullshitting and set you straight.

We are not asking you to wear a label on your forehead. You can do this! You will have the satisfaction of knowing that you are helping to keep children safer

Who Is A Pedophile

If you are having sex with a child you are a pedophile. Just because you have not been convicted of a crime or caught does not mean that you are not a pedophile. You must take steps to control your problem RIGHT NOW!

DSM-IV Criteria for Pedophilia
(To be Clinically Diagnosed as a Pedophile all 3 of these must be true)

1. Over a period of at least 6 months, recurrent, intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual
urges or behaviors involving sexual activity with a pre-pubescent child or children
(generally age 13 or younger)

2. The fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors case clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupation, or other important areas of functioning.

3. The person is at least age 16 years and at least 5 years older than the child or children in
Criterion A. Note: Do not include an individual in late adolescence involved in an ongoing
sexual relationship with a 12- or 13-year-old.:

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Should Pedophilia be a mandatory life sentence?

I believe my answer is 2 fold. I don't feel that putting these people in prison for the rest of their lives is the answer. It is far to costly and I don't feel safe in letting them go their own ways unsupervised either. So what do we do?

Presently Judges give out long and harsh sentences for child molestation but, once the offender is released and their parole is over, they are free to do as they please and this is a dangerous place for a pedophile to be.

The courts can partition for civil commitment but this practice is costly and the criminal rights advocates would be all over this stating how they have done their time and how unconstitutional this kind of treatment is. How ever if the laws changed to make sentencing of child sex crimes to have a minimum sentence of life then we can choose who gets paroled and what the commitments for the offender will be for the rest of their life because they are on a lifetime parole.

My experience tells me that group therapy and group monitoring works but is that enough?

I would like to see sex offenders receive a life sentence but not all in jail. I would like to have a mandated lifetime group therapy with ankle bracelets. The cost would be at the expense of the offender and therefore a requirement for parole would mean they must be employed. This is low cost and will allow an offender to make a life for their family as well as always being in treatment and in check.

My Story

It was Sunday, My younger Brother and I were getting ready to see daddy. We haven’t seen him in many months. Since my mom and dad’s divorce when I was 1 years old, we only got to see him on special occasions and today was one of those occasions.

Mom dressed us in our best shabby hand me downs, combed our hair and gave us each a dime to make us feel important because we were going to the movies!

I heard the horn blast, “daddy is here”. I said as I ran out the door and got into the car and was ready for a great time with daddy when he turned around and said to me, “get out of my car, I will not be seen with you dressed like that, you are bums like your mother”!

I was 5 years old and remember it as if it happened yesterday.

For years I wondered what I did so wrong that my own Father didn’t like me or see that I was important. I tried tirelessly to win his approval though out my years as a child and into manhood. To him I was nothing and never will be so; I took my business to town.

I believe this is when I became vulnerable to the pedophile that raped me when I was 5 years old until I was 15 years old. Maybe I just wanted the attention. Maybe I liked it. I don’t know for sure but what I do know is that those years of molestation made me feel like a pig. I still feel like a pig and I am now in my 40’s. Will I ever get over feeling like I need the approval of others? When will I be normal? How long must I be shameful when its time for me to enjoy intimacy? Should I tell anyone or will they say I should have known better at age 10, 12, 13, 14 or 15?

I am now able to talk about this and I can say “It’s not my fault”! I did nothing wrong.

I am angry, hurt, confused and my Father died when I was 30 and I will never get to hear the words I longed for, “I love you and you make me proud”

I must have heard it from my molester a hundred times.

Did you See it coming?

See me Dad? I am dressed like a clown.
Everyone loves clowns.
Why don’t you Dad?
The rapist likes me.

See me Dad? I am dressed like a medic.
Everyone loves medics.
Why don’t you dad?
The sadness likes me.

See me Dad? I am dressed like the Army
Everyone likes the Army.
Why don’t you Dad?
The drug likes me.

See me Dad? I am dressed like the important people
Everyone likes important people.
Why don’t you Dad?
The Anger Likes me.

See me Dad? I am dressed like the Christian
Everyone likes Christians.
Why don’t you Dad?
The rage likes me.

See me Dad? I am dressed like the mourner
Everyone likes the mourner.
Why don’t you Dad?
The Depression likes me.

See me Dad? I am dresses like the monster.
Nobody likes monsters.
Don’t you hate monsters too?
See me now Dad? See me?

Are you a sex addict?

Here are 12 Questions Taken from the Sexaholics Anonymous Booklet.

Answer these twelve questions to assess whether you may have a problem with sexual addiction.

1. Do you keep secrets about your sexual or romantic activities from those important to you? Do you lead a double life?
2. Have your needs driven you to have sex in places or situations or with people you would not normally choose?
3. Do you find yourself looking for sexually arousing articles or scenes in newspapers, magazines, or other media?
4. Do you find that romantic or sexual fantasies interfere with your relationships or are preventing you from facing problems?
5. Do you frequently want to get away from a sex partner after having sex? Do you frequently feel remorse, shame, or guilt after a sexual encounter?
6. Do you feel shame about your body or your sexuality, such that you avoid touching your body or engaging in sexual relationships? Do you fear that you have no sexual feelings, that you are asexual?
7. Does each new relationship continue to have the same destructive patterns which prompted you to leave the last relationship?
8. Is it taking more variety and frequency of sexual and romantic activities than previously to bring the same levels of excitement and relief?
9. Have you ever been arrested or are you in danger of being arrested because of your practices of voyeurism, exhibitionism, prostitution, sex with minors, indecent phone calls, etc.?
10. Does your pursuit of sex or romantic relationships interfere with your spiritual beliefs or development?
11. Do your sexual activities include the risk, threat, or reality of disease, pregnancy, coercion, or violence?
12. Has your sexual or romantic behavior ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others, or suicidal?

If you answered yes to more than one of these questions, we would encourage you to seek out additional literature as a resource or to attend a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting to further assess your needs. http://www.sexaa.org/program.htm